Lessons learned from an 80-year-old

My friend Pete and I decided to go to Rose's, a neighborhood dive bar, to grab a drink last night. It's crazy that we've only been friends for almost 7 years because I feel like I've known him all my life. Therefore, it's always good to see him because he is currently juggling dental school, planning a wedding, and your everyday adult responsibilities.

Considering this isn't Pete's first time visiting Chicago, I decided not to take him to a "typical/touristy bar." From the outside, Roses isn't the most attractive bar but it's always worth building the courage to get out of your comfort zone and try something new!

Pete and I were in luck because Rose was working last night. I was impressed by her ability to connect with every single individual who walked through the door. Also, she is a very open person and shared her stories about living in Poland, becoming a widow at 30 and the many lessons she has learned over the years. 

There was one insight that I overheard Rose tell a fellow customer that really struck me. She encouraged this 20-something-year old to make sure she takes the time to listen to others, especially those that are older. Now, this is a saying that I've always heard growing up but for some reason (in this moment) I was really empowered to pause and reflect on how I incorporate this important life lesson to my life.

Am I taking the time to listen to those around me? Have I taken the time to thank my parents for all those times they said "Just listen" or "Trust me?" There is so much truth in the beauty of having the courage to listen to others. I believe that every single person has a story to tell and some knowledge to contribute. However, I also believe that it's becoming more challenging for people to remember this due to our society's status of being very technologically savvy.

For example, I've witnessed people text or respond to email at the dinner table. I've noticed people dismiss others on public transportation and quickly grab a book or their ipod in order to not be "bothered" by others. I've heard people describe looking at people's Facebook statuses as the best way to keep up-to-date with their family and friends. I've observed couples fighting and being so focused on making their point that they fail to listen to the other and recognize that they are on the same page.

We can't afford to lose touch. We have to remember Rose's suggestion and take the time to listen and embrace the people around us. THANK YOU, Rose for this valuable lesson that is easy to take for granted. I hope that when I am 80 years old I am cool enough to work at a bar and share a story or two with others.